Statler Riley, known for her appearance on 90 Day Fiancé: Before The 90 Days and The Other Way, has hit rock bottom after filming two seasons of the show. In a series of recent Instagram stories, Statler admitted that she is partly responsible for the challenges she has faced in recent years. She describes herself as a “walking doormat” and acknowledges her tendency to be a people pleaser. However, she also wants TLC and her former British partner, Dempsey, to take responsibility for their roles in her downward spiral.
Statler’s life update on Instagram revealed the extent to which being on the show has impacted her life. She feels the 90 Day Fiancé franchise has completely destroyed her character by forcing her and Dempsey to film fake, scripted scenes for dramatic effect. This portrayal has deeply affected her personal and professional life. Now approaching 35 years old, Statler is living with her parents, a stark contrast to the life she had envisioned for herself.
One of Statler’s biggest regrets was trusting Dempsey, who she claims used and abandoned her. The relationship left Statler in debt after she helped Dempsey buy a van so they could both live their van life and travel across Europe as a couple. Despite paying more than half of the van’s price, Statler put it in Dempsey’s name. Dempsey eventually sold the van and kept all the money, leaving Statler financially devastated. Adding insult to injury, Dempsey used the proceeds to travel the world with her new American girlfriend.
Statler’s credit score took a significant hit, but she is slowly recovering financially. The emotional toll, however, has been even more challenging. What hurts Statler the most is the betrayal and the realization that trust must be earned, not given freely. She feels used and discarded, with her former partner benefiting from her generosity.
In her Instagram stories, Statler urged fans not to insult or bully Dempsey online. Despite everything that has happened, she empathizes with the pain of online harassment, being a public figure herself. Statler knows firsthand how damaging it can be and doesn’t wish it on anyone, even her worst enemy. She emphasized that her intention in sharing her story is not to incite hatred but to make her voice heard.
